SNAGs- a glorified term or does it mean more than that ?
(First appeared in my website... found this quite interesting... thus decided to revamp it and put it in my blog...)
 
This is an issue that I believe, had been on the minds of many Singaporean men: "What's wrong with us?"

Seriously, my answer to that is a simple twist to the question. Instead of asking the question above, we should ask "What's wrong with the Singaporean women of today?"

Before all the overly driven feminists cringed and bared their teeth over yet another chauvinistic attempt of a particular Mr. Wong wannabe to further demean and discredit the woman graduate population, let me explain my stand.

Some women commented about the glass ceiling that their workplace have for capable women.  Well for the information, we are not holding it back ( no sexual connotations here) but to call a spade a spade, women nowaday are still a discriminated lot.  You are not required to serve the nation with 2 and a half years of your life and of course be there for the country 24/7 for the next 13-20 years of your life, even though many of you are dying to do so.  You would never have to face the ignominity of being called a freeloader when you don't work.  You can shout "rape" "molest" or anything reeking of "sexual discrimination" without even batting an eyelid.  You can get things done your way, with a raising of the hemlines, a lowering of the bustlines and the occassional tantrum throwing.  These are things that men can't and so what is a little of the glass ceiling about.  I admit that there are many women which are far capable than men but in a world striving to be equal, there is still a need to address this mindset issue.  Give up chivalry if you want equality.  Sometimes these two are just mutually exclusive. 

In a shocking turn of events, nowadays, men and women have simply faced a reversal of roles; men had been facing an identity and gender crisis; at this crossroads of the 21st century, men need to reevaluate their roles; it had been no surprise to hear men now wanting to settle down and start a family, whereas the women are asking for more time to consolidate their careers. This was totally unheard of 20 years back. Sometimes faced with parental and societal pressure, many women resist the idea of settling down, fully believe that singlehood is the right answer to their demands for freedom. Is this the problem of society or is it that our women are just too choosy. I read with great interest from a certain magazine that Caucasians are better lovers and even better on the bed as compared to the deadfish Singaporeans who cared too much about the stock exchanges and whose idea of romance and marriage and living together is to ask a girl to apply for a HDB flat. IS it that the Singaporean men are not SNAGish enough? But I digress.

Men are expected to be SNAGs, or what they referred to as New Age sensitive Men, Men who will reveal their softer and fragile side, be it the shedding of tears in the upteeteen screening of "Titanic", watch girly stuff, do girly things like talking and tlaking and sharing.... SNAGS are also men who enjoyed shopping, aimless shopping (YES not those target acquired, go buy, pay with credit card, and out of store in a jiffy) window shopping. Take it on the face value that you are the ultimate SNAG? why not look at it from another point of view?  Is the SNAG supposed to show the feminine side of men where women are fast losing it?  And in looking for the SNAG, are the women looking for someone with that something that women are fast losing or have lost it. 

I have friends who lament that women nowadays had lost the "F" factor.  No sexual connotations here, but the "F" I mean was "Feminism".  And to put my point across, a short visit to the Orchard and you will see androynous looking people with serious sexual crises.  In an incident a couple of years back, it was quite shocking to see one of my ex-students strutting down Orchard Road with her galfren.  Obviously she was shocked to see me but at that point of time what was on my mind was the determination to put up a non judging appearance although I was grappling deep in my heart whether I should condone this, especially now it happen to one of my former gals.  I am totally okay about it but the main crux is about is the feminine nature that is so far lacking. Or is it that Men's role had been slowly diminishing..

An unsettling thought tell me that one day just maybe one day, men may lose their role and become extinct in the face of these ever capable women counterparts.  Or will we see a regeneration of men's role comparable to that of the evolution of the apes. One day as the two grannies look at their granddaughters and tell them that they were conceived via frozen semen provided by a so called sperm guy.  That will be the time where Men will seriously have to look into their roles.

With that chilling thought in mind, are there any willing SNAGs out there?